All of us have
painful experience inflicted by others. In most cases, we are vulnerable to
those whom we love much. Their words and actions that made us feel
unimportant or those that belittle us can easily hurt us, with or without their
knowledge.
Sometimes, we experience injustices,
unfair treatment or judgment (based on our perception) from our others. The
pain we experience are accumulated from childhood
to adulthood, and these are stored at the back of our minds, on our
“unconscious level”, just waiting to be tickled, then the pain will resurface.
This is the reason why we sometimes overact on some situations, a reaction
which we did not expect ourselves and sometimes surprised us. These are our
baggage, and it tends to accumulate as time passes.
To easily move on
to life’s flowing spring, we need to wash away those pains. HOW?
Forgiveness is the key and it can heal our memories and the wounds that were
created by painful experiences.
Here are tips which
can help you as it helped me:
Put
yourself in the other person’s shoes once you are calm.
Try to find reasons why he/she did what was done to you. Maybe, he /she
did not really mean to hurt you. If you cannot find reason to justify,
lift him up to God. Maybe he/she did not know what he/she was doing on
that moment.
Forgive. Before the end of the day, try to
forgive all the persons that bothered you, that inflicted you pain and
harm. It will free you from unnecessary baggage and make you sleep
tight.
Pray for those who hurt you. Prayer is a
powerful tool to change people as well as to realize your desired result.
As quoted by many, “prayer can move mountains”.
Forgive yourself. Sometimes, we have high expectation on
ourselves that when we fail, we blame ourselves. We sometimes felt shame
for the errors we made, and for failing to meet the expectations of
others. We do not want to down-grade our level of self esteem, so this
must be remedied.
Acceptance that
people are not perfect. You and I are people that have lots of imperfections.
Hence, it is within our nature to commit fault, mistakes and errors. With
acceptance, we can easily forgive.
Be free from
unnecessary baggage and enjoy life!
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